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Have you ever been to a place that changes your life for good. or any journey to a distant land that makes you a different person.

The recent event of Chinese Incursions in Ladakh was major reason for political tension. I can’t imagine India without LEH LADAKH. to me it is a precious piece of heaven on earth. . it also brought some old memories back

A few years ago I Visited Leh & Ladakh . My first encounter with Leh & Ladakh began when i was in college. we had a detailed chapter on it in english class. being science students most would skip the english class without second thought. Not many would sit through the literature classes. I loved literature classes.

Each class told stories from different culture and different people. Some real and some fiction. There was this particular chapter written from perspective of a traveller.the writer went in detail about Ladakh and Leh .itsbeauty , its terrains and clean water.the hard working locals and change in life style of the people with rise in tourism. the positive and negative of tourism.

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this kept me wondering about ladakh . for years i had been wanting to visit it. something always came up. and years followed by years i kept on postponing my trip to this mystical land.Few Years later, the movie 3 IDIOTS was released ( a bollywood movie partly based in ladakh ) . The film only made me want to see it more desperately.The anticipation kept building.

As it goes,i never got a chance visit.Until one day , when my life hit a low phase.I was going through such a crisis that nothing i did,no action and no plan could resolve it.

A legendary Lemon was sprung on my face. I had to face it. I Didn’t deserve to be in that mess, but life never goes as planned. and good things don’t always happen to good people (or so I thought. now when i look back i know. those were rough days but life has been never better. if things had turned out normal , i would have been ok with average life and never reached this far )

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Anyway, that is exactly when i said ‘I’m Going To Ladakh!”. Going to ladakh is no joke.it is a long distance away and you need multiple flights just to reach the place, the travel and stay expenses are extra. i looked in to my accounts and realised i hadnt much left.I decided to go with the flow and i spent ALMOST ALL the savings i had left in bank and went on this trip.

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so i decided to make a glass of lemonade and sip it on my way to Ladakh! Today when I look back . it was worth every Rupee. the trip was more of spiritual journey to me.somehow the endless blue skies, the crisp air , Golden monasteries, high peaks, tough yet smiling faces of Ladakhis and gleaming streams of water touched my heart and gave me hope.

i realised that no matter how rough life gets , there is life beyond that. you just have to take a step back and look at it from a different perspective. despite major losses . life is about coming around.you fall , yourise, you walk , you run, may be few more falls , anda few more rises.it’s all about rising back. there is so much beauty in life and world is full of amazing opportunities, that a few bad people and a few unlucky days are not an enough reason to feel hopeless.there is always hope !

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you have to pick yourself up, and say”so what?” and get back on your feet again. it is all about making lemonade out of lemons.

Chappy 19- Lockdown ..the imposed break

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If only I had more time to spend with my family !

If only I could start blogging again!

If only I could paint more often !

If only I could stay home and rest !

If only I could stay home and chill!

I had these and many more- if onlies….

And then ,this lockdown happened. All of sudden forcing me to chill and relax. The downside of this lockdown is the pandemic that COVID 19 has brought upon this world followed by an economic slowdown.

Well the first few weeks I really didn’t know what to do with all this time and staying home . The roads were empty and restaurants and cafes closed. No people on the streets, even on weekends. It was a strange feeling initially.

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It felt like a scene from a SCI FI movie. I might as well say I have wasted the first few weeks in unpreparedness. slowly I Jumped Into attending webinars, then reading books and then cooking at home instead of going out . I recently read books like JANE EYRE, 1984, THE LEAN STARTUP, MY TALL GREEN FRIENDS and THE STARBUCKS EXPERIENCE . I am currently reading Hafsah Faizal’s ‘WE HUNT THE FLAME’ .

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Slowly I am adjusting to this Lockdown. I’m also going back to painting again! And ofcourse Binge watching series . I’m Currently hooked to SCHITT’S CREEK

Coming To The Reason Why we are in this lock down . COVID19! A new strain of virus that didn’t even have a name 6 months ago.It’s scary how a microorganism that small,can bring this world to a halt.

The Best way to protect yourself and everybody around you is through social distancing. Respect and follow the guidelines shared by World Health Organization(WHO). Health care frontliners , the defence army,police, delivery guys, sanitation department andmany hidden heroes are working really hard to win over this situation.let us help them by not increasing their workloads unnecessarily . Stay home as much as you can.

By being reckless and not sticking to these guidelines we are risking other’s lives too.

Life if too precious to be thrown around like that.

Take care of each other . More so in the present circumstances. Helping one another and being kind is the key here.

Invest your time in creative things and learning something new. Are there hobbies you also wanted to get back to? How are you making the most of this lockdown ?

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Wisdom Tuesdays

“Some women as soon as they hear no, back down fast.
They think now I have gone too far or I don’t want this to turn into a conflict.Women often have the same response to low counter offers.
‘They have asked for a lot, the other negotiator offers much less’ and they think ‘OK that will be fine I don’t want to fight about it.’
Remember, not backing down is not the same as starting a fight.” Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever’s Ask for it. An Amazing book on negotiation skill development.

Chappy 18 – Discover your Spirituality


Spiritual calling..

  A few years ago the phrase spiritual growth or soulful living wouldn’t get many head turns.

I can still recollect moments when people would scorn at such phrases. 

It was condidered uncool and old fashioned to talk about spirituality. As though spiritual growth is something bad.

But today things are very different. You see suddenly everybody wants to be a spiritual guru in a way a motivational coach. 

The truth is that all greatness in us stems from spirituality.

If you arent spiritually inclined and deeply rooted a sudden hurricane of bad times will wash you away in a few hours.

Relying on your financial status for your inner value is unwise. 

Especially now, in the times of most uncertainty where lay offs are rampant , inflation is rising and businesses doom every other day.

Times are changing and for the good of all of human kind, we have begun to realise how important is the word Spirituality

The words Spirituality and Religion are related but not the same. Irrespective of your religion and where you are on the belief scale, you must believe in the spiritual  existance , of you and every body . 

It’s very important to have a spiritual guide. A Guru that takes your hand and leads on the path. It can get confusing when you take up the world on your own while still tender spiritually. 

Then again finding a good guru is no joke isn’t it ? How then will you know if this is your Guru?

I apply a simple formula in my life when at cross roads-“You will never know until you try”.

So applies  in my spiritual journey.  

Even if you fail to find the right Guru at first you will eventually meet him/her . Life will take you to the right teacher. As long as your intentions are good and divine. 

Try to find deeper meaning in life . Respect life, your’s and evrbody’s around you. Value your birth into this world. Try to keep yourself grounded by meditating. Peace is inside you. That is where lies your spiritual wealth, in YOU.

My spiritual journey has been my greatest discovery. I hope you all find it too. Wishing you a marvelous journey.

Chappy 17 – Spend Time With ‘YOU’ First

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Spend time with you

Time is the most precious commodity in the world. Nothing can buy time , not even money .

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Today in our hectic lives we should value time unlike generations ago. Life was once so slow and relaxed. Today it’s all a rush. Everything needs to be done quick, if not better. Life is so fast that we hardly stop by to think. We are running on an auto pilot mode. Is that what we really want to do?

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Our friends are on online chats, our parents are on video call and our food is -THE FAST FOOD .

Yes we do need to move with our times. We can’t go at the speed of decade ago, at least not at work. We are expected to be on call 24 x 7 , even on holidays and after work hours. This kind of brings down the time we have for ourselves. That’s the tragedy.

Now with all the left over time we have to somehow manage to give some to our family, some dear friends and to our leisure, but what about us? What about spending time with our hearts and souls?

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Being attentive to what your soul is experiencing in very crucial. It’s crucial to know what you feel.

Why you feel that way and so on. How you act and how others react to your actions? Not just that but also how we react to others actions and others presence in our life.

We somehow have lost touch with ourselves in this entire process. So much that, some of us can NOT spend time alone.

You see spending time alone and being lonely are two VERY different things.

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You can be with ten people around and still feel lonely. Lonely feeling is your gut calling out to you and saying ‘SWEETY you aren’t ok’

May be it’s the wrong kind of company, may be you are running away from something, may be you aren’t confronting some deep issues. Loneliness could be so much more than just not being with others. It’s a feeling on the inside and has nothing to do with the outside world.

Being alone today is considered UNCOOL. Nothing can be this farther from the truth.

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We are in such an inebriated state of mind today, with all the gadgets and the online social world. By some means being on your known doesn’t get as many likes on social media.

It seems unpopular, boring and introvert. There is nothing wrong in being any of the three.

Spend time with yourself. Go offline. Go away on a social networking diet . You will see the change.Be observant of your actions and your feelings. Respect what your body and your guts are telling you.

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Listen and respond to them. And you will start understanding yourself better. Understanding yourself isn’t any small feet. It’s a journey, and a long one at that. The earlier you start the better you will know yourself.

The more you know yourself the more love generates inside you.

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Self- Love is the greatest gift.

Gift love!

Wisdom Saturdays 16

“…. Now I remembered that the real world was wide,
and that a varied field of hope and fears, of sensation and excitements, awaited those who had courage to go forth into it’s expanse, to seek real knowledge of life amidst it’s perils.”
Charlotte Bronte’s delicate classic Jane Eyre


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Flattery to me is shallow praise . Usually it strings from a secret intention or the need to impress some one. Pure praise on the other hand is positive words about somebody without any hidden agenda.

It is such a joy to be complimented by someone especially by the ones you know. Compliments showering from another person bring us under a glorious spotlight though temporary. But it does cheer us. It surely brings a smile on our face doesn’t it? Even if we somehow manage to hide it and act like “Well that’s no biggy”.

In our little hearts there is bubbling of happiness. We have an entire day looking forward to do more good. It’s inspiring and energizing.

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When we praise someone genuinely for their nature or their actions, we make them realize that what they do does matter and the world is a little better when they do what they do. Aren’t we all humans? Don’t we all doubt our selves sometimes?

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For silly reasons, trifle worries, we all miss out on the many qualities that we have been blessed with and the things we actively do every day.

So praises given and praises taken are gifts that no matter small leave waves of positivity running through out our day and in turn one’s life. It’s interesting how we all can be a fraction of someone’s joy.

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So tell me, if somebody was kind enough to instill faith in yourself. Even for a second, shouldn’t you share that ripple of joy with someone too?

I will add that while praises are welcome, our ability to praise ourselves shouldn’t be belittled in any way.

Praising ourselves is as important as praising others. Why should that heart of yours be devoid of it’s own kindness? You have been warm enough to be nice to someone.

We need to praise ourselves as much as others. Believe me, try praising yourself for tiny things done well. Not on a trumpet horn, but silently in your hearts.

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If you have sweetened someone’s day today, with a spoonful of honest praises.

Don’t be shy and sprinkle few more crystals of praise in your own cup.

After all if you don’t fill your heart with self love and self praise how can you supply endless praise and love to others around you.

Sending love and praises to you ! Praises to you all !!


I am lucky to have a plush park few steps away my residence. Its green, well tended , always loaded with people . It’s made for all. There’s a joggers path, an open gym section for the health conscious: for kids , the children’s play ground and for the romantic, the colorful beds of flowers , fragrant plumeria, and greens in all shades , trees young and old spreading all across the land.

Here I saw the tree, it’s an old giant tree in the corner of the park. I call it THE CRAZY TREE. Those were the words that cropped up in my mind the moment I lay my curious eyes on them . I had never seen a tree so strange.

It’s a large magnificent tree , no younger than a hundred years I guess, even its branches stretch wider than my length. I find it humbling that Its been here way before me . It’s seen changing weathers , change in governance, pollution and several interferences in it’s growth. Thanks to man’s old habit of altering all things natural.

Now why CRAZY . Why not just old , you ask? Because it’s not just a single living entity . It houses many other lives. There must be a bunch of other species living on it . Most conspicuous of all are these sheets of parasitic cacti that extend from its lowest branches to the top, flourishing as grand as the tree itself. Believe me when I say extend .

The cacti more or less cover the tree, they are long and coated with fine thorns, some even dangling from the branches over the walkers path. Yet the tree stands as graciously and as welcoming as a wise old lady. At night from distance, it looked nothing short of medusa’s head.

At first sight, it’s just a giant tree. But if you look closer, there is more to it. There are mosses, vines of different kind, variety of plants I have never seen and cacti spreading like a swarm, uncontrolled and wild.

Despite it’s strange appearance and intriguing lifespan, it’s beautiful! It is this tree that has many stories to tell and many memories to recall that stand out. The features that make it look weird at the first, also make it interesting and unique. No tree in that park is as detailed as this one.

There may be many other senior trees , may be greener and pompous than THE CRAZY TREE. But nothing beats it’s beauty .

Its interesting how we all grow into miniature crazy trees. When we realize we have picked up some cacti and some mosses on our way. We think our situations as different from other’s and try so hard to be just like everybody. So grey and so plain.

However , there is no fun in being like everyone.

But that’s not how we were made . That’s not natural. Even dead and inanimate objects change with time. Then who are we to protest? Past failures, victories, desires and fears are a part and parcel of THE REAL YOU.

You may try to scrape it off . But there was never a need. As long as your past is in harmony with your present, your future will be fine. Just be yourself .

Accept your history along with your present. The good, the bad and every other thing. They made you who you are today.

No matter how weird or crazy you may seem to some. Those who take the time to see you for real, will always know you are simply BEAUTIFUL.


Below is a glimpse of The real crazy tree that inspired me …

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