“Forgetting is actually good for you , according to new research. When your brain retrieves a half forgotten memory, it is working very hard and so when you review your work , you are making very strong connections. .. .. The dendrites are right there… Some connections have faded, but when they come back on, they will be much much stronger.” Khurshed Batliwala and Dinesh Godke’s book for students ‘Ready Study Go’
Spend time with you
Time is the most precious commodity in the world. Nothing can buy time , not even money .
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Today in our hectic lives we should value time unlike generations ago. Life was once so slow and relaxed. Today it’s all a rush. Everything needs to be done quick, if not better. Life is so fast that we hardly stop by to think. We are running on an auto pilot mode. Is that what we really want to do?
Our friends are on online chats, our parents are on video call and our food is -THE FAST FOOD .
Yes we do need to move with our times. We can’t go at the speed of decade ago, at least not at work. We are expected to be on call 24 x 7 , even on holidays and after work hours. This kind of brings down the time we have for ourselves. That’s the tragedy.
Now with all the left over time we have to somehow manage to give some to our family, some dear friends and to our leisure, but what about us? What about spending time with our hearts and souls?
Being attentive to what your soul is experiencing in very crucial. It’s crucial to know what you feel.
Why you feel that way and so on. How you act and how others react to your actions? Not just that but also how we react to others actions and others presence in our life.
We somehow have lost touch with ourselves in this entire process. So much that, some of us can NOT spend time alone.
You see spending time alone and being lonely are two VERY different things.
You can be with ten people around and still feel lonely. Lonely feeling is your gut calling out to you and saying ‘SWEETY you aren’t ok’
May be it’s the wrong kind of company, may be you are running away from something, may be you aren’t confronting some deep issues. Loneliness could be so much more than just not being with others. It’s a feeling on the inside and has nothing to do with the outside world.
Being alone today is considered UNCOOL. Nothing can be this farther from the truth.
We are in such an inebriated state of mind today, with all the gadgets and the online social world. By some means being on your known doesn’t get as many likes on social media.
It seems unpopular, boring and introvert. There is nothing wrong in being any of the three.
Spend time with yourself. Go offline. Go away on a social networking diet . You will see the change.Be observant of your actions and your feelings. Respect what your body and your guts are telling you.
Listen and respond to them. And you will start understanding yourself better. Understanding yourself isn’t any small feet. It’s a journey, and a long one at that. The earlier you start the better you will know yourself.
The more you know yourself the more love generates inside you.
Self- Love is the greatest gift.
“…. Now I remembered that the real world was wide,
and that a varied field of hope and fears, of sensation and excitements, awaited those who had courage to go forth into it’s expanse, to seek real knowledge of life amidst it’s perils.”
Charlotte Bronte’s delicate classic Jane Eyre
Flattery to me is shallow praise . Usually it strings from a secret intention or the need to impress some one. Pure praise on the other hand is positive words about somebody without any hidden agenda.
It is such a joy to be complimented by someone especially by the ones you know. Compliments showering from another person bring us under a glorious spotlight though temporary. But it does cheer us. It surely brings a smile on our face doesn’t it? Even if we somehow manage to hide it and act like “Well that’s no biggy”.
In our little hearts there is bubbling of happiness. We have an entire day looking forward to do more good. It’s inspiring and energizing.
When we praise someone genuinely for their nature or their actions, we make them realize that what they do does matter and the world is a little better when they do what they do. Aren’t we all humans? Don’t we all doubt our selves sometimes?
For silly reasons, trifle worries, we all miss out on the many qualities that we have been blessed with and the things we actively do every day.
So praises given and praises taken are gifts that no matter small leave waves of positivity running through out our day and in turn one’s life. It’s interesting how we all can be a fraction of someone’s joy.
So tell me, if somebody was kind enough to instill faith in yourself. Even for a second, shouldn’t you share that ripple of joy with someone too?
I will add that while praises are welcome, our ability to praise ourselves shouldn’t be belittled in any way.
Praising ourselves is as important as praising others. Why should that heart of yours be devoid of it’s own kindness? You have been warm enough to be nice to someone.
We need to praise ourselves as much as others. Believe me, try praising yourself for tiny things done well. Not on a trumpet horn, but silently in your hearts.
If you have sweetened someone’s day today, with a spoonful of honest praises.
Don’t be shy and sprinkle few more crystals of praise in your own cup.
After all if you don’t fill your heart with self love and self praise how can you supply endless praise and love to others around you.
Sending love and praises to you ! Praises to you all !!
I am lucky to have a plush park few steps away my residence. Its green, well tended , always loaded with people . It’s made for all. There’s a joggers path, an open gym section for the health conscious: for kids , the children’s play ground and for the romantic, the colorful beds of flowers , fragrant plumeria, and greens in all shades , trees young and old spreading all across the land.
Here I saw the tree, it’s an old giant tree in the corner of the park. I call it THE CRAZY TREE. Those were the words that cropped up in my mind the moment I lay my curious eyes on them . I had never seen a tree so strange.
It’s a large magnificent tree , no younger than a hundred years I guess, even its branches stretch wider than my length. I find it humbling that Its been here way before me . It’s seen changing weathers , change in governance, pollution and several interferences in it’s growth. Thanks to man’s old habit of altering all things natural.
Now why CRAZY . Why not just old , you ask? Because it’s not just a single living entity . It houses many other lives. There must be a bunch of other species living on it . Most conspicuous of all are these sheets of parasitic cacti that extend from its lowest branches to the top, flourishing as grand as the tree itself. Believe me when I say extend .
The cacti more or less cover the tree, they are long and coated with fine thorns, some even dangling from the branches over the walkers path. Yet the tree stands as graciously and as welcoming as a wise old lady. At night from distance, it looked nothing short of medusa’s head.
At first sight, it’s just a giant tree. But if you look closer, there is more to it. There are mosses, vines of different kind, variety of plants I have never seen and cacti spreading like a swarm, uncontrolled and wild.
Despite it’s strange appearance and intriguing lifespan, it’s beautiful! It is this tree that has many stories to tell and many memories to recall that stand out. The features that make it look weird at the first, also make it interesting and unique. No tree in that park is as detailed as this one.
There may be many other senior trees , may be greener and pompous than THE CRAZY TREE. But nothing beats it’s beauty .
Its interesting how we all grow into miniature crazy trees. When we realize we have picked up some cacti and some mosses on our way. We think our situations as different from other’s and try so hard to be just like everybody. So grey and so plain.
However , there is no fun in being like everyone.
But that’s not how we were made . That’s not natural. Even dead and inanimate objects change with time. Then who are we to protest? Past failures, victories, desires and fears are a part and parcel of THE REAL YOU.
You may try to scrape it off . But there was never a need. As long as your past is in harmony with your present, your future will be fine. Just be yourself .
Accept your history along with your present. The good, the bad and every other thing. They made you who you are today.
No matter how weird or crazy you may seem to some. Those who take the time to see you for real, will always know you are simply BEAUTIFUL.
BE CRAZY and BE YOU.
Below is a glimpse of The real crazy tree that inspired me …
‘Solomon said , “Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith” ‘, Jane Eyre thinks , on how love is far fulfilling than any luxury.
Charlotte Bronte’s Jane Eyre
‘Man is the only creature that consumes without producing. ‘
said Old Major to all the animals.
Animal Farm by George Orwell
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